What If Your Husband and Kids Don’t Want To Move?

by L.Buckley

Older children will want to know more and you should be prepared to tell more. They may want to move however if you explain to them that you are moving to be closer to relatives in NYC or maybe Boston to a better job they will most likely understand the reason for the move.Tailor your explanations to the age of the children and their comprehension.

You may be moving to be closer to relatives in NYC and your youngest children will be very pleased if you tell them this is the reason for the move. Older children will want to know more and you should be prepared to tell more. They may want to move however if you explain to them that you are moving to be closer to relatives or to a better job they will most likely understand the reason for the move.

You may be in a situation where your spouse may not wish to move. Again, open and honest communication is the key to help you and your partner decide if this is the right decision for your family. You will probably ask yourself a dozen times on what’s the best time to move, during the school year or during the holidays? This has been a sensitive topic with people and is very divided on their opinions.

As the move gets nearer be sure that the entire family is included in progress reports so nobody feels left out. Keep everyone informed on plans and tasks about movers and packers and any activities associated with the move. Keep everybody involved. It is good to allow the children to be involved in some of the decision making. You could consider taking them with you on house hunting trips at your new location if time and finances permit.

Your kids, spouse and teenagers frequently have the most difficult time when moving. They will have made strong friendships and probably spend most of their free time with their friends and will be very hesitant to move away from this sense of security. Teenagers are going through a difficult time anyway with their bodies physically changing and their emotions in constant turmoil. Please be patient with them.

It is critical to a successful partnership and marriage that you and your partner have this discussion. It may be very difficult for two people to hold it together during a time of chaos, but remember you need to be strong for your kids.

After you have moved and are somewhat settled in, plan a trip back to your old city or bring some of your teenagers old friends to stay with you for a vacation. Does age make a difference in younger children? In general the younger the children the easier the move. For very young children the home is their entire world. Please keep this in mind.

Some useful things you can do to help them become accustomed to the idea of the upcoming move. Allow them to pack a box of their own even if you need to repack it later for safety reasons. Ask them to pick the colors for their new room. Play act the move with them so they can get an idea of what is about to happen.

Get to know as much as possible about your new home town as early as possible and this can help to alleviate the fear of moving somewhere you do not know anything about. Reassure them that everything will work out well and keep up with that positive attitude.

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