Working together – Team Work as a Parenting Skill

by Dr. Noel Swanson..

The most effective parenting skill in establishing child discipline is working together. It is effective in dealing with behavior problems of children of all age groups and children of your own or your spouse’s from a previous relationship. Biological or foster parents can benefit from this skill of team work.

Children are experts in parent playing; they know how to get their way, if not from parent, they will go to the other parent. This often leads to misunderstanding between the parents and children use this situation to their own advantage.

It is very important for parents to work together for the welfare and stability of a home. Working together is a valuable parenting skill that parents must learn and practice. The first thing you as parents should do is to sit down and have a meeting, and work out a system that works for you.

An even more practical plan is to divide the activities on the basis of preference. For instance, one parent can handle outdoor activities while the other can handle indoor activities. This will prevent the children from being able to play one parent against the other.

Remember, children should see their parents as one unit working together in harmony. They must know that they have to seek the approval of both parents in each situation. This arrangement works very well where both parents are available.

All parents need to agree on the rules and steps to follow regardless of which method you decide to use for making decisions. Once you’ve decided, then go to your children and explain the situation.

If you as parents can work together as a team, your older children will understand the situation, and will stop future parent playing. If they are not old enough to understand, you can prevent parent playing from occurring in the first place. Working together is the foundation of parenting.

Working together has much greater benefits than just stopping children from parent playing. After all, parenting is not only about going to the park or watching TV. You need to take decisions on what type and kind of education they have to be given? Which religion or faith a child should be brought up in? What type of child disciplinary measures should be taken? All of these questions and many more need to be addressed together as a team, and as they grow up, they should become a part of the team.

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